So I’m at work the other day, talking to one of my coworkers. We’re just shootin the breeze, talkin about this and that. We then get to talking about my girlfriend. The conversation went like this…
“So, you still open doors for her?”
“Yeah, still at that stage.”
“She should be opening doors for you.”
“I know, right!”
“You just gotta train her.”
“Yeah, I’ll slap her with my Chris Brown hand.”
Silence.
“What, too soon?”
Regardless of how the conversation continued after that (they finally laughed and gave me a pound, acknowledging the dark but timely joke), the question lingered in my mind. How soon is too soon? When does it become alright to joke about a horrible situation? Don’t get me wrong…what happened with Chris Brown and Rihanna is awful (and seriously, someone talk to the girl about not getting back with him), and I think the man should be in jail. But I have, and always have had, a dark and “don’t-and-shouldn’t-go-there” sense of humor.
Unless the person the tragedy happened to is standing right in front of you, and they don’t have a sense of humor, in my mind there is no “too soon”. I can’t help it. My mind just works that way…I make a joke out of everything. I make jokes at other people’s good fortune, misfortune, lack of fortune, and everything in between. I make jokes at funerals. I found videos of the tsunami humorous. Steve Irwin…need I say more? And who doesn’t like to watch people getting hurt on YouTube. Kick to the crotch? Awesome! Fall from a roof…even better! Getting attacked by a bear? Over the top!
I just think life is WAY too short to take things too seriously. Sure, some of the things I joke at are tragic situations. But tragedy happens every day, all around us. You can’t spend your entire life dwelling on the darkness out there in the world. All you can do is try to find humor in it all, focus on the positive, and keep your head up. Someone once said “Laugh as much as you breathe and love as long as you live.” I couldn’t agree more. So do your best to find humor in every situation…it will make life much more enjoyable.
(This posting was inspired by one of my favorite YouTubers, CommunityChannel, and the below video…but the above conversation did happen. This video just let me know it was ok to talk about it!)
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I would agree with you in a sense, there is never really a “too soon” as long as the person in the tragic situation is not present, if they are there it may or may not be one depending on the situation and the person. However, sometimes, some jokes are so degrading and just go beyond the normal scope of having a “dark” or “interesting” sense of humor… these are the jokes that make everyone in the room, even those with the sickest sense of humor, turn and look at you in a state of shock, disappointment and disgust. It is rare that this type of situation happens, but when it does, and it was your big mouth that caused it… you know that you have just crossed a line there is no coming back from.
With that being said… I love your “Chris Brown hand” and admit that I was really into the show “Scarred” on MTV.
I was making chris brown jokes the next day. I don’t know them even though rhianna is from my island. I think someone needs to whoop his ass. I make fun of everything..I take it too far and quite frankly, I don’t care what people think. If you don’t like it stop listening. Trust me it wont hurt my feelings